Personally I blame the education system (and that’s not just because they’re my default scapegoat for most of society’s problems). Our education system, in America anyway, is horrible at preparing children for the real world. For 13 years I wasted my life learning “Social Studies” and “History” when I could have got some serious counseling and direction on what the real world is like. You know, things like budgeting and home economics. And maybe I just have a weird living situation, but on a daily basis I find I need money and food more than I need to know who was the 12th president of the United States or where Istanbul is on a map. (Both of which I do not know btw)
No seriously all jokes aside, it’s no secret that our education system sucks in America but you can’t really blame anyone for your quarter life crisis. There are too many factors involved. It just sort of sneaks up on you. One day you’re a young teenager trying to figure out who you are and what you want to do with your life and then next, you realized that those same questions you had 14 still haven’t been answered yet and it’s almost been a decade!
If you really think about it, American culture lends itself to being the perfect atmosphere for the quarter life crisis. With divorce as high as it is now, the concept of a nuclear family is sadly becoming a thing of the past. Family, which is supposed to be the cornerstone of society, is supposed help guide us to our destinies but with so many of us (myself included) coming from broken homes, it’s no wonder that we hit this part of life bewildered and unprepared.
Also this concept of adolescence fosters the quarter life crisis. Back in the early 1900’s there was no such thing as a teenager. You were either a man or boy. A woman or a little girl. Now we have this grey area in life “adolescence” where you take time to “figure yourself out”. We allow young adults to have more freedom but not give them responsibility. But if you do that they will just use their freedom to please themselves in the present, instead of making responsible choices that will build their future. There has to be a healthy amount of both responsibility and freedom in every person’s life because responsibility without freedom is communism but freedom without responsibility is anarchy. Young people need a healthy balance of both in order to make quality decisions that will progress their lives
So how did you get in your quarter life crisis? Well maybe we can say there were seeds of a quarter life crisis in your life this whole time that was outside your control. Like I said we can’t really point to any one person. I mean, if you really want to get technical, it’s our fault that we’re here for not planning our lives much better. …but I rather blame the education system because that’s more fun than blaming myself. If there is one thing that lacks during a quarter life crisis, it’s fun! Besides at the end of the day, it’s not important how we got here, it’s important that we figure out how to get out of this ASAP! Otherwise we’ll be 27 doing something drastic.