Friday, November 9, 2012

Exposing the Lies: You’re Not Good Enough

               So there are many things that run through our head as we are experiencing our quarter life crisis. Some of which I believe are lies and that’s why I decided to start a new page on my blog called Exposing the Lies. The first lie we are going to expose is the lie that “You’re not good enough”.
               Now I’m sure at some point in every person’s life this thought has run through their head. Especially amongst women. I can’t tell you how many of my female friends have this irrational fear that they are good enough to do something or worst feel good enough to be loved or love (but that’s another blog for another time). Basically this thought tells us that we do not possess the necessary skills or ability to accomplish something that we really want.
               Now as with everything in life, something is either true of its false. Now sometimes this idea can be true but it’s usually obvious when it is. For instance, most 23 year old guys aren’t “good enough” to play in the NBA. But that’s obvious and of course there are exceptions to the rules because there are some 23 year old guys in the NBA. However with most other things, other than obvious examples, the idea that you’re not good enough is a COMPLETE LIE!
               First, you don’t need to worry about being good enough. The only time we don’t feel good enough is when we compare ourselves to other individuals, but you don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. Everyone puts their pants on one leg at a time (except Chuck Norris lol) so we all are equal. We all are different but that makes a society work. If everyone all possessed the same qualities then we wouldn’t have all the different traits a society needs to function. It’s called the “Equality of Differences” Our differences doesn’t make one person better than the other, just gives them a different function in society.
               Second, anything you want to do you can do. It is just going to take more hard work than you originally anticipated. We all know a story or seen a movie about a person who overcame the odds and did something extraordinary because, based on our humanistic way of thinking, they were not “good enough”. Now if they had listed to the lies and believed that they weren’t good enough then they never would have overcame the things that they did and reached the goals they wanted.
               Good enough? Good enough for what? As long as you accept who you are and are comfortable with that person, that’s good enough. Now I believe everyone should strive for self-improvement but not out of self-hatred. I want to improve myself every day. But every day spent thinking about how I’m not good enough, is a day taken away from improving myself. You don’t need to be the best; you just need to be the best you can be. LIE EXPOSED!

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