Saturday, November 30, 2013

Don't Do It Alone

  Hopefully by now if you’ve been following my articles, you’re starting to feel a little inspired. Hopefully by now you’ve began thinking of some things you want to do or changes you want to make to escape this quarter life crisis. So here’s something that you need to understand: You cannot do it alone. I know that all these successful people want you to believe that they got to where they are by their own personal talent and hard work, and I don’t want to minimize that because they did work very hard, but the truth is everyone needs help.
                Nobody can accomplish anything completely by themselves. We, as humans, aren’t made to be alone. We’re social creatures all with different talents and capabilities. And when we all use our talents to help one another, we all succeed. If you want to be successful, you need to make as many friends as possible. Trust me, you’ll have plenty of enemies and naysayers and obstacles in your path to greatness, so try to make a couple of friends along the way.
                Why do you need help? Because some people have skills that you need but don’t have right now. Some people have resources that you’re going to need to get yourself started. Some people have insight and knowledge that only comes with age and experience and unless you have this team around you, you will never go to where you want to go. Unless you can go to those people and learn the skills they have, you will never be where you want to be.
                I’m not talking about professional help, like you’re depressed and need to see a psychiatrist. I’m talking about you need guidance. Whatever it is you want to accomplished, chances are that there are thousands of people out there who can help you do that, you just need to find them. It’s going to require some humility. It’s going to require some courage. It’s going to require some faith.
                Many of the greats partnered with other people to get started: Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Jay-Z, Michael Jordan, you name it and although we know only the one name, chances are if you do your research, you’ll find out there was a great team of people behind them. So who’s on your team? Whose helping you get to where you want to be? Also, if you have people in your life that are a hindrance to what you are trying to do, now is the time to get rid of them. Nothing personal against them, but you’re trying to go places and do things and like I said, you’ll have many obstacles to overcome, so the last thing you need is heavy baggage slowing you down.

                Get a team! It may be all that you’re missing to take that next step. Some guidance, some partners, and some people who have access to resources you need. You cannot do this thing alone. You’re going to need all the help you can get.

Friday, November 29, 2013

The Fundamentals: Wisdom Over Wealth

 If you had a choice, would you rather be wealthy or wise? I was reading about Walt Disney and his story is amazing. Essentially he started three different animation companies, all of them failed and one even went bankrupt, before he finally got his business off the ground with the creation of Mickey Mouse. Why do you think that happened? Because he had a bunch of money? No! Universal Studios basically stole all of his animators in his last venture before Mickey Mouse. He had nothing. So how did he do it? He was wise. Even though he was only 26 years old at the time, he had wisdom far beyond his years.
                Wisdom is what you need to get anything started. Wealth can only provide you with opportunities and resources, but wisdom provides you with a whole lot more. As a matter of fact, wisdom is what protects wealth. Wisdom will take you places that wealth can’t buy. Wisdom is precious, worth far more than any amount of money. So the question is, how do you get wisdom?

                One of the biggest challenges for someone going through a quarter life crisis is that they feel unsuccessful; not knowing that the path to success is what stops many people from being successful. In our minds we think: Great Opportunity + Hard Work = Success. So we get frustrated because we think that we haven’t had any opportunities to succeed. But the formula for Success is actually: Success = Wisdom + Great Opportunity + Hard Work. And the formula for Wisdom is: Wisdom = Failures + Perseverance. The problem with so many struggling young people is that we’re too afraid to fail. And when we do fail, we don’t take responsibility and own it. It’s about time that you accepted the responsibilities that come from your mistakes. Because without accepting the responsibility, you will never learn the lesson that Wisdom is trying to teach you.

                Laziness and selfishness. We just care too much about what we want to do and pampering ourselves that we’re both physically and mentally lazy. Discipline is the reason I wake up at five o’clock in the morning when I don’t have to be at work until 2pm. Why? Because I just want the discipline. I want to deny myself of something I love (i.e., sleep) just because. How serious are you about discipline? This grey zone that you’re in is the perfect time for preparation. Start disciplining yourself now to prepare for the blessings ahead. Otherwise, you’re character won’t be able to handle the place where Wisdom wants to take you.


                Some of us will never be wise because we’re too prideful! You think you have it all figured out. You’re too busy trying to teach so you’re unable to learn. What you need to do is just move yourself to the side and go talk to your mother or father and get some advice from them. If you don’t have a mother or father, go to someone older that you respect. If you don’t respect anyone older than yourself, then go read a book by a successful person. Talk to and listen to some older people about how they did it and be humble and imitate them. Stop being rebellious all the time, it’s foolish. You’re the only one who suffers from being prideful. You’re the only one who suffers from being undisciplined. You’re the only one who suffers from quitting after you’ve failed. It’s time to use your time to prepare and be wise. Wisdom over Wealth. 

Without Vision People Perish

                Could you imagine being born blind? What if you never saw anything? Concepts as simple as “green means go” mean nothing to you. Not knowing what your parents look like or you significant other, or even yourself? Not being able to identify objects or never able to see what beautiful or perfection looks like. I guess if you were born blind, that although it would be difficult at first, you could train yourself because you wouldn’t know what is was like to see. But imagine if you were born with perfect vision and then all of a sudden without reason one day you woke up and couldn’t see anymore. How paralyzing would that be? How dark would the darkness be then if at one point you knew what light was? It would be challenging, depressing, and may even feel like it is too much for you to handle.
We all would agree that vision is important. Now here’s the key: Your problem, if you’re going through a “quarter life crisis”, is that you have no vision! You’re living in darkness! Yeah you can taste your destiny, you can even feel it deep inside of you at times but you can’t see it! It’s blurry or worst not even there.
                Maybe you’ve just graduated college and now you don’t know what to do. Maybe you’re in school and you’re struggling to find motivation to complete assignments. The word motivate comes from the Latin word “movere” which means to move, stir or agitate. What agitates you to get out of bed in the morning? What moves you to start taking action in your life? What stirs your soul and aggravates your spirit? It you do not have vision you will perish! You will be mediocre.
                I’ve been studying a great people of history and successful people of our generation and they all were just like everyone else. Just like you. Having a “quarter-life crisis”, trying to figure out what they should do with their life. And then one day they had a vision. And they’re vision motivated them. It helped them take that first step. It helped them disciplined themselves. It got them out of crisis and into conviction.

                Even a GPS system, which uses state of the art technology, needs a destination before it can navigate. Do you really expect to get out of your crisis without a destination? T.E. Lawrence said, “All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake up in the day to find it was vanity, but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.” Do yourself a favor: Go grab a pen and a piece of paper write down your vision. In details, with specifics. Where do you want to be? Whom do you want to be with? What do you want to be doing? What are you passionate about? Don’t be afraid to have a big vision either. Something that will change the world, change the way we think about society, change the way we approach life. Something that will require everything in your very being to be accomplished. I only have one small request as you write down your vision: If your vision isn’t so phenomenal that you can’t even think about it without smiling, so worthwhile that you think everybody should be doing it and so big that it scares you, then cross it out and GET A BIGGER VISION! Otherwise you’ll wake up tomorrow still in darkness.