Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Heart Can't Be Taught, It Can Only Be Inspired

Some things just can’t be taught. No matter how many classes you take, and no matter how much you study. Some things just can’t be bought. No matter how much money you have, they just don’t sell it. Some things just will not be given. No matter whom you ask, no matter how much you ask, it just will not be given to you.
What I’m talking about is heart. You can’t buy heart. No one can give you heart. No one can teach you heart. It’s something you have or you don’t. You can be the most talented person in the world and have every opportunity in the world to succeed but if you don’t have the heart you will always be searching for more.
Some say, “I do have heart, but I still can’t find a job. I have the heart but I do not have the opportunities. I have the heart but I still don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing.” And therein lays our problem. There will be obstacles and challenges; there is nothing we can do about that. But heart doesn’t have a “but”! When you have heart you find a way to make your dreams a reality. When you have the heart you’re willing to do whatever, whenever, however to see your goals accomplished.
During a quarter life crisis it is easy to lose heart. In fact, you can say that, that was either how we got here or it was the first sign we were having a quarter life crisis. You see, in school that taught you the material. They even equipped you with some skills necessary to succeed. But what they didn’t teach you and what they can’t teach you in school is how to have heart.
Heart is something you get when you look in the mirror and you decide, “That come Hell or High Water, things in my life will be different! Whatever I got to do, whoever I have to talk to, wherever I have to go, I will because I want this with ALL MY HEART!” Did you catch that? ALL YOUR HEART! There is no way to be happy in this life by giving 50% or 70% or 95%, you must give whatever you want to do, everything you got and then find something else and give that too. In fact, you feel worst about yourself when you’re only giving 70%, don’t you? You let yourself down because you know that you’re current effort isn’t the best of you.
Like I said, you can read all the books you want and feel as guilty as you want but that’s not going to change anything. It’s time you invested you’re whole being into something great. Here’s a couple of secrets about giving your whole heart: 1) It’s difficult. Failing isn’t difficult. Getting hurt isn’t difficult. Being excited isn’t difficult. Getting back up again and again and again after you’ve failed repeatedly is hard. Putting yourself back out there after someone close to you hurt you is hard. Being excited when there is nothing visibly to be excited about is hard. 2) They don’t give away heart after 7am. I said it in my last article, you need to get rid of the snooze button. Heart is earned in the wee hours of the morning when everyone else is dreaming. You can’t convince me, or yourself, you’re giving your best in life if you’re still hitting that snooze button. And that’s why you feel miserable. Because you know you’re not giving everything you got.

So like I said: this stuff can’t be bought, it can’t be given, and it can’t be taught. It must be found. When was the last time you talked to yourself in the mirror out loud? I challenge you to do it and find the heart you need to do the things you need to do. It’s your life and I don’t have the heart for your life, only you have that. You just need to go find it 

Monday, December 2, 2013

Exposing the Lies: You Can Be Successful And Hit The Snooze Button

                
WAKE UP! WAKE UP! WAKE UP! Today we are continuing our series on Exposing The Lies. Today’s lie: “You Can Be Successful And Own A Snooze Button” I just had a powerful “Quiet Time” this morning where I was studying out laziness. Now you may not be a Christian or believe in the Bible but you must respect wisdom. This is deep. So there’s only one thing you need to do if you want to start making progress out of your quarter-life crisis. And that one thing is STOP PUSHING THAT SNOOZE BUTTON!
                The reason why so many of us are even in the situation we are in now is because we’re lazy and we procrastinate. Trust me, I know. I obtained my PhD in Procrastination by the time I turned 17. I had it down to a science. I used to say things like: “I’m good” “I got this under control” “I work better under pressure” And a lot of you say that too. You said that in high school, you said that college, and now you’re sitting here like, “Man, what am I going to do with my life?”
                No one benefits from a snooze button. “Laziness brings on a deep sleep” Proverbs 19:15. Isn’t that true? On the days where you sleep in or on days where you hit the snooze button repeatedly, you’re more tired, you have less energy, and you miss tremendous opportunity.
                So you may be thinking, “I need my 8 hours. I can’t function without my 8.” Okay, let me put this into perspective for you. You have 24hrs a day. If you spend 8 of it sleeping, you spend a 1/3 of your day dreaming about doing something, instead of actually doing something. You need to learn to be able to function at full capacity off 3, 4, 5, and maybe even 2 hours of sleep if you want to progress your life. Some days you not even be able to go to sleep! “Do not love sleep or you will grow poor; stay awake and you will have food to spare.” Proverbs 20:13
                You got to hate the snooze button. I know for myself, if I wake up past 6am I’m mad at myself. Why? Because I know that I let an hour or two past and I’m never going to get those hours back. They’re gone forever. There’s nothing I can do about it. I’m trying to wake up at 5am or 4am on my off day just because. Eventually I’m going to start getting up at 3am because I need to attack all those boring tedious tasks I hate doing so that by 10am, I can use the next 12 hours to work on what’s important to me.
                So I’ll say it again, WAKE UP! WAKE UP! WAKE UP! Stop pressing that snooze button! You’re the only one who is suffering. Stop complaining about how boring your assignments are and get to work on them. Make them a thing of the past so you can have more time to focus on what’s really important to you. The rapper 50 Cent said, “Sleep is for those who are broke” It’s true, you can’t be successful and stay in bed. So stop pushing that snooze button. It’s hard but if it was easy you wouldn’t want it anyway. Lie exposed!

Wakin up at eight, is too late to be great,
Wake up at seven, not while we’re in a recession,
Wake up at six, and you might get picked,
Wake up at five, now you’re alive,
Wake up four, and you’ll have many open doors,
Wake up at three, and you can be anything you want to be,

Sunday, December 1, 2013

Quarter Life Crisis Symptoms: Identity Crisis Pt. 2 - Find YOU

                
Erik Erikson said that an identity crisis is a time of intensive analysis and exploration of different ways of looking at oneself. In laymen’s terms: You’re trying to figure yourself out. Most of us have spent so much time living the way we think people want us to live that when we’re by ourselves, we find ourselves searching for who we really are. We accept the world’s standard of beauty, the world’s standard of living, the world’s standard of us that we don’t have our own standard by which to measure ourselves. We know exactly where we fit in the mind of society but have no idea where we fit in our own mind.
                The problem is we haven’t set up our own standards. What is important to you? What are your values? Stop trying to figure out what everyone else thinks you should be and focus on what you think you should be. Until you figure that out, you will never be where you want to be because you never took the time to figure out what you wants.
                Quick story: So you may know that I work as an intern at a Christian church. That’s one of my values, growing to be a better Christian. Not perfect, but better. Anyway, part of being a Christian is evangelizing and helping other people to become Christians. So I’m in this Bible study with this guy. We’ll call this guy Mike. Now Mike knows he’s not a Christian and he says he wants to be one. So we’re in the Bible studies and Mike is giving me all the right answers but outside the studies his life really isn’t changing. Now some people will tell you that “you can’t change only God can change you” but personally I don’t believe that because I see people change and prove that saying wrong every day. You can change, YOU have to change. But I digress again… So finally we’re in this Bible study and I ask Mike, “Man to man, don’t tell me what you think I want to hear. Do you even want to change your life?” Mike says “No” So I closed the Bible and I say, “Alright well then we’re done. If you don’t want to do this then don’t waste your time. Yeah sure I want to be a Christian, but I can’t be a Christian for you. And I’m not going to force you to become one so if this isn’t what you want to do and you’re just doing this to please me then let’s stop wasting your time.” And we never did another Bible study together after that.
                What the point of the story? The reason why Mike was never going to reach the goal, which was to change his life for God, was because he didn’t really want to. It was not important to him. Do I think he made a mistake? Yeah, but I’m not the one living his life. I don’t decide when he comes and goes and what he does for a living, he has to decide that. And what I’m saying is that the reason why so many of us are having an identity crisis is because we’re too busy trying to please “the guy leading the Bible study”. We show up to life every day, doing the right things, saying the right stuff but we never get in touch with the right person. It’s time to get in touch with you. What is important to you? What are your values? I can motivate, inspire, spur, encourage, but the one thing I cannot do be you. Only you can be you.

                So you’re having an identity crisis? Good! You need this. You need this more than you know. You need to sit down in a room or go to some place where it’s you and no one else and just focus on what is important to you. I take time to do this every morning. I call it “Quiet Time”. This is your life and only YOU can live it. You need to find you and stay true to that person. Stop trying to live up to everyone else’s standards. Find you and stay true to that person. Find you and stay true to that person. Find YOU and stay true to THAT person.